Today I came accross an article on the Washington Post about a couple who got married with a bunch of key elements of the Jewish Wedding. First I was intrigued and even curious about this idea, thinking that several jewish components are really nice such as the Huppa for instance, and that it was an interesting and creative view to borrow some pretty elements from other religions to enhance a wedding.
But then I started thinking about deep considerations and the fact that this mix is a little bit disturbing. Although I am not a practicing Catholic, I still have an important respect for faith and traditions. I don’t agree with the fact that we can just say “Catholic wedding is boring, it’s just like church, let’s do a jewish wedding” without any strong commitment to this “new” religious beliefs. And actually without having any religious belief. Jonathan Stein notices aptly that they may not even understand the real meaning of what they do.
I happily welcome interfaith weddings but I have some concern about where is the yellow line when couples customize their wedding. The Faith cannot be selectively picked up for creating entertaining wedding. Some ceremonies may look boring to some peoples, however they have a meaning. Religions are not some shopping malls where you can mix and match aspects.
Several alternative exist for un-religious weddings. One of them, for example, is the unity candle. This part of the ceremony represent the union of the Bride and the Groom without borrowing the meaningful Kiddush ritual.